Etiquette in one table
| Situation | Do | Avoid |
|---|---|---|
| Greetings | Shake hands when introduced, accept if it is declined | Kissing or hugging without an invitation |
| Speaking | Say what you think simply, without detours | Mistaking frankness for rudeness |
| Formal address | Use "u" with strangers, then follow the invitation to "jij" | Using "jij" at once with older or formal contacts |
| At someone's home | Warn in advance, arrive on time, bring flowers or chocolates | Dropping in unannounced |
| In the street | Respect cycle lanes and Red Light District rules | Photographing windows, walking in bike lanes |
Direct is not rude
Several sources describe Dutch frankness as a virtue: it concerns content, not form. A clear "no" is not an attack. Conversely, effusive compliments can sound insincere, and commenting on someone's accent can feel like a reproach. The Dutch often switch to English when addressed in Dutch: this is not a rejection.
Sensitive subjects: what we know
Religion is treated as a private matter in public space, according to a reference article. The Second World War holds an important place in the city's memory: read Amsterdam during the Second World War before raising it. On politics, do not look for a taboo: listen, ask questions and avoid lecturing.
Street rules that matter more than words
- Red Light District: no photos of the windows, see Red Light District rules.
- Cannabis and alcohol: see alcohol and cannabis in the street and coffee shops.
- Bikes: see cycling in Amsterdam.
- Other common mistakes: mistakes to avoid in Amsterdam.
A guided walk with a local guide lets you ask these questions on the spot: see free guided tours.
FAQ
Are there forbidden topics in Amsterdam?
None officially, and we found no sourced list. Be respectful and avoid lecturing.
Should I say "please" in every sentence?
No: Dutch does not use "please" constantly, which explains the impression of rudeness some visitors have.
Can I photograph the Red Light District?
Not the windows: see the district's rules.
La rédaction Amsterdam Authority, information read on 30 October 2026.
